Mo Chridhe,
Lee Xin Hui; 95-liner.
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to tell you.
I really do.
Sunday, October 4, 2015, 1:50 AM
Destiny .
I know I have done this kind of shit countless of times but I CAN'T HELP BUT FEEL AMAZED EVERYTHING AT HOW ACCURATE THESE THINGS ARE . Like of course they aren't 100% accurate , every individual is unique and all , plus some tests tell me that I am isfp rather than infp , but for this test , my result was INFP .
And heck , I'm gonna paste the results here to amaze myself when I reread them . With commentary of course because how can xinhui not comment on something right .
INFP PERSONALITY (“THE MEDIATOR”) (c)
INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better.
But i don't search for ways to improve things , I just whine over them and hate my life lol.
While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.
Being a part of the Diplomat (NF) personality group, INFPs are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – INFPs are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the INFP personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.
I was about to comment HECK YES and I saw the following line, "proud of this quality". HAHAHA DOUBLE HECK YES
At their best, these qualities enable INFPs to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. The strength of this intuitive communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous INFPs are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to INFPs, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.
INFPs have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.
INFPs’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language.
LMAO AT MY SHITTY KOREAN AND MALAY ABILITIES. OR EVEN MY CHINESE. AND SPOKEN EL TOO ACTUALLY. I used to think I was awesome at languages because of my good english grades all the way up till JC but HAH, I thought wrong .
Their gift for communication also lends itself well to INFPs’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.
Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few
Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, INFPs will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for INFPs’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.
laughs at the amount of friends who became distant after I lose my positiveness after JC. My friends used to ask how is it possible for someone to have no worries and be so happy lol
If they are not careful, INFPs can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, INFPs may start to lose touch, withdrawing into "hermit mode", and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.
Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.
-okay this is too long, im gonna just part out parts which I wanna comment over alright-
INFP Strengths
- Idealistic – INFPs' friends and loved ones will come to admire and depend on them for their optimism. Their unshaken belief that all people are inherently good, perhaps simply misunderstood, lends itself to an incredibly resilient attitude in the face of hardship.
HAHAHAH keyun sometimes get mad at the fact that I keep helping 'Ben' and find excuse for her and also how I feel sad for 'Shirley' rather than anger
- Seek and Value Harmony
- Open-Minded and Flexible – A live-and-let-live attitude comes naturally to INFPs, and they dislike being constrained by rules. INFPs give the benefit of the doubt too, and so long as their principles and ideas are not being challenged, they'll support others' right to do what they think is right.
detest narrowminded people!!!!!!
- Very Creative
- Passionate and Energetic – When something captures INFPs' imagination and speaks to their beliefs, they go all in, dedicating their time, energy, thoughts and emotions to the project. Their shyness keeps them from the podium, but they are the first to lend a helping hand where it's needed.
arts which I wanna comment over alright- does dancing and all my stupid tumblr projects count HAH
- Dedicated and Hard-Working
didn't think the details were important but HAH the title: hardworking okay yeah right
INFP Weaknesses
- Too Idealistic – INFPs often take their idealism too far, setting themselves up for disappointment as, again and again, evil things happen in the world. This is true on a personal level too, as INFPs may not just idealize their partners, but idolize them, forgetting that no one is perfect.
my sister always say she don't think i will ever have a boyf because of my crazy standards and ideals. AND WHAT DO YOU MEAN NO ONE IS PERFECT, JIMIN IS PERFECT TO ME OKAY LOL
- Too Altruistic
- Impractical
- Dislike Dealing With Data
- Take Things Personally – INFPs often take challenges and criticisms personally, rather than as inspiration to reassess their positions. Avoiding conflict as much as possible, INFPs will put a great deal of time and energy into trying to align their principles and the criticisms into a middle ground that satisfies everybody.
I GET SO AFFECTED BY CRITICISMS, like I will feel so sad forever and ever and ever. Like if you ever said something as a passing comment like "why you talk so much" I'll feel sad about it for my entire life ): (ps. real comment from someone just earlier this year ):)
- Difficult to Get to Know – INFPs are private, reserved and self-conscious. This makes them notoriously difficult to really get to know, and their need for these qualities contributes to the guilt they often feel for not giving more of themselves to those they care about.
LMAO , so many people have told me how they don't understand me
INFP RELATIONSHIPS
INFPs are dreamy idealists, and in the pursuit of the perfect relationship, this quality shows strongest. Never short on imagination, INFPs dream of the perfect relationship, forming an image of this pedestalled ideal that is their soul mate, playing and replaying scenarios in their heads of how things will be. This is a role that no person can hope to fill, and people with the INFP personality type need to recognize that nobody's perfect, and that relationships don't just magically fall into place – they take compromise, understanding and effort.
THIS IS THE MOST CREEPILY ACCURATE ONE, I CAN'T. But I have long acknowledged the fact that I have impossible ideals and tbh, most of my crushes ended up not fulfilling even half of them EXCEPT MY LAST CRUSH, HE IS ACTUALLY REALLY CLOSE TO MY IDEAL. So yes , I know that ideals are just ideals and someone as shitty and lame as me have no rights having ideals lol . Anyway I also believe that you don't choose who you fall in love with so that's that . PLUS , I feel like I actually fall for people really easily? Just that never enough maybe lol
Love All, Trust a Few, Do Wrong to None
(...) But INFPs aren't necessarily in a rush to commit – they are, after all, Prospecting (P) types, and are almost always looking to either establish a new relationship or improve an existing one – they need to be sure they've found someone compatible. In dating, INFPs will often start with a flurry of comparisons, exploring all the ways the current flame matches with the ideal they've imagined. This progression can be a challenge for a new partner, as not everyone is able to keep up with INFPs' rich imagination and moral standards – if incompatibilities and conflict over this initial rush mount, the relationship can end quickly, with INFPs likely sighing that "it wasn't meant to be."
As a relationship takes hold, people with the INFP personality type will show themselves to be passionate, hopeless romantics, while still respecting their partners' independence. INFPs take the time to understand those they care about, while at the same time helping them to learn, grow and change. While INFPs are well-meaning, not everyone appreciates what can come across as constantly being told that they need to improve – or, put another way, that they're not good enough. INFPs would be aghast to find that their intents were interpreted this way, but it's a real risk, and if their partner is as averse to conflict as INFPs themselves, it can boil under the surface for some time before surfacing, too late to fix.
like I will really be such a hopeless romantic and love someone with ALL MY HEART but yes , I nag so much and am too straight with my words , because to me, it's FOR THEIR OWN GOOD . I'm sorry ):
Better Three Hours Too Soon Than a Minute Too Late
This aversion to conflict, while contributing greatly to stability in the relationship when done right, is probably the most urgent quality for INFPs to work on. Between their sensitivity and imagination, INFPs are prone to internalizing even objective statements and facts, reading into them themes and exaggerated consequences, sometimes responding as though these comments are metaphors designed to threaten the very foundations of their principles. Naturally this is almost certainly an overreaction, and INFPs should practice what they preach, and focus on improving their ability to respond to criticism with calm objectivity, rather than irrational accusations and weaponized guilt.
BUT IT'S HARD, HOW DO I NOT TAKE CRITISM PERSONALLY, I DON'T UNDERSTAND
But that's at their uncommon worst – at their best, INFPs do everything they can to be the ideal partner, staying true to themselves and encouraging their partners to do the same. INFPs take their time in becoming physically intimate so that they can get to know their partners, using their creativity to understand their wants and needs, and adapt to them. People with this personality type are generous in their affection, with a clear preference for putting the pleasure of their partners first – it is in knowing that their partners are satisfied that INFPs truly feel the most pleasure.
"ENCOURAGING"
INFP FRIENDS
The true friends of people with the INFP personality type tend to be few and far between, but those that make the cut are often friends for life. The challenge is the many dualities that this type harbors when it comes to being sociable – INFPs crave the depth of mutual human understanding, but tire easily in social situations; they are excellent at reading into others' feelings and motivations, but are often unwilling to provide others the same insight into themselves – it's as though INFPs like the idea of human contact, but not the reality of social contact.
complains about how I have no friends and have no place to go during weekends while ignoring all the jios on whatsapp lol. congrats friends who made the cut, yay
How Poor Are They That Have Not Patience
(...) INFPs' tendency to protect their sensitive inner cores and values from criticism, especially if they are on the more turbulent side of the spectrum, means that acquaintances will likely get nowhere near them without sustained and tactful effort.
okay i get it, im a sensitive shit
INFPs will always need to disappear for a while, removing themselves from others so they can re-center on their own minds and feelings. Often enough people with the INFP personality type will emerge from this time alone having come to some momentous decision that even their closest friends didn't know was weighing on them, evading even the option of receiving the sort of support and advice they so readily give. Such is INFPs' way, for better or for worse.
always? more like all the time. Like enter for a day ten bye im out
INFP PARENTS
i skipped this whole part because i didn't bother reading it, totally no interest
INFP CAREERS
It is perhaps more challenging for INFPs to find a satisfying career than any other type. Though intelligent, the regimented learning style of most schools makes long years earning an advanced degree a formidable undertaking for people with the INFP personality type – at the same time, that's often what's needed to advance in a field that rings true for them. INFPs often wish that they could just be, doing what they love without the stress and rigor of professional life.
THIS CAREER PART MAKES ME THE MOST EXCITED AND IS THE MOST ACCURATE. YESYESYES, TO EVERYTHING. And did they just quote me on the last part, THIS IS WHY I EXPRESS MY FRUSTRATION ABOUT SW BEING TOO PROFESSIONAL AND HOW VOLUNTEERING SEEMS NICER NO? And yes, I guess I am smarter than average considering my results and the efforts i put in but i wanna quit school so bad because school sucks. BUT ACTUALLY BEING A DANCER WOULD BE SUCH A SATISFYING CAREER, im only finding it challenging to find a satisfying job because i gave up dance like WHY
Oftentimes, as with so many things, the answer lies somewhere in the middle, in a line of work that begins with passion and dedication, but which comes to require training so that the academia feels intimately linked to that passion. Too many INFPs drift in frustration, ultimately succumbing to the necessities of day-to-day life in a job that wasn't meant for them. But it turns out that, despite such exacting demands, modern economics places a premium on the very keys to INFPs' challenges: their creativity, independence, and need for meaningful relationships with individuals who need their help.
WHY YOU CURSE ME
There's Place and Means for Everyone
First and foremost is seemingly every INFPs' dream growing up – to become an author. While a novel is a classic choice, it is rarely an accessible one, and there are many viable options for freedom-loving INFPs. The internet brings to the world the opportunities of blogging and freelance work – as organizations expand their reach beyond their native tongues, they will come to depend on INFP personality types, with their gift for language and written expression, to take their rougher translations and stale pitches and inject them with a sense of beauty and poetry. Smaller organizations will need more than ever to express with elegance the value they bring to local communities.
for LOL but i shit talk so much on this blog . I guess my other blog is much better even tho not by a lot because i keep going into spoken form of writing... but I guess the fact people praise me for being able to express myself much better than most shows something right? especially my instg followers, they always tell me they relate or that i am able to write out what they feel. then again , they are too sweet to be trusted lmao
Some INFPs will prefer a still more personal touch, being able to work face-to-face with clients, seeing that their personal effort really impacts another's quality of life. Service careers such as massage therapy, physical rehabilitation, counselling, social work, psychology and even academic roles and retraining can be exceptionally rewarding for INFPs, who take pride in the progress and growth they help to foster. People with the INFP personality type have a tendency to put others' interests ahead of their own, a mixed blessing by itself, but when a patient takes their first unaided step in the long road to recovery after an accident, nothing will feel more rewarding than that selflessness.
OKAY SO MAYBE I DID CHOOSE MY NEXT BEST OPTION RIGHT AFTER ALL (': It really matter , about whether I touched people life and make a change somehow , no mater how small . Like just telling me my $1 donation gave someone a bread for their lunch matters so much more than earning a lot. Desk jobs does nothing for me, unless im working in a welfare organization like i am now. Because just doing the admin for a vwo makes me think , if im doing this admin job for a nurse for example , she have more time on her hand to go help someone and THAT is making a change imo . BUT I STILL DON'T THINK I HAVE IT IN ME TO BE A SW , I SHOULD SERIOUSLY JUST DO ADMIN FOR SW .
If to Do Were as Easy as to Know What Were Good to Do...
Where INFPs will not thrive is in a high-stress, team-heavy, busy environment that burdens them with bureaucracy and tedium. INFPs need to be able to work with creativity and consideration – high-pressure salespeople they are not. It can be a challenge to avoid these roles, as they are the basis for so much starting work, and it's often a risk to break away into something less dependable, but more rewarding. To find a career that resonates with INFPs' values though, that's more than just a job, sometimes it's just what needs to be done.
I CAN'T PERSUADE PEOPLE OR SELL THINGS FOR SHIT
INFP IN THE WORKPLACE
In the workplace, INFPs face the challenge of taking their work and their profession personally. To INFPs, if it isn't worth doing, it isn't really worth doing, and this sense of moral purpose in their work colors everything from how they respond to authority to how they express it. Though the way the INFP personality type shows through depends on the position, there are a few basic truths about what INFPs seek in the workplace: they value harmony, need an emotional and moral connection to their work, and loathe bureaucratic tedium.
INFP Subordinates
As subordinates, INFPs prefer latitude, and would much rather immerse themselves in a project, alone or with a close team, than simply be told what task to do and move on. People with the INFP personality type aren't looking for easy, forgettable work that pays the bills, they're looking for meaningful work that they actually want to think about, and it helps for their managers to frame responsibilities in terms of emotional merit rather than cold rationalization or business for its own sake. INFPs would rather know that their work will help to deliver a service they believe in than to know that the bottom line has been boosted by 3%.
No leh , i prefer people telling me what to do, but i have to do it in my style if that makes sense . meaningful work was commented on just now. and i want meaningful work but don't want to think about it leh , im shit at thinking. THIS IS WHY I WILL BE A SHIT SW, I don't like the thought of having to explore all part of someone's life to see what we can help them improve or how to help people grow . im more like you no money, i give you money , you no friends i give you friend and company ok byebye don't be too complicated please.
(...) While some types, especially Analysts (NT), respond favorably to negative feedback, taking criticism as an opportunity to not make the same mistake twice, people with the INFP personality type would much rather hear what they did right and focus on what to do, rather than what not to.
okay im shit at criticism, let's MOVE ON
INFP Colleagues
INFPs feel most comfortable among colleagues – they aren't interested in controlling others, and have a similar distaste for being controlled. Among their colleagues, INFPs will feel freer to share their ideas, and while they may maintain some psychological distance, they will make every effort to be pleasant, friendly and supportive – so long as their coworkers reciprocate. INFPs don't like conflict or picking sides, and will do everything they can to maintain harmony and cooperation.
i hate office politics, who doesn't man. this is so general
Most of this comes down to good communication, which INFPs prefer to conduct in person, for that personal touch, or in writing, where they can compose and perfect their statements. People with the INFP personality type avoid using phones if they can, having the worst of both worlds, being both detached and uncomposed. INFPs also like to feel like their conversations are meaningful, and while they enjoy exploring philosophy more than most, their patience for arbitrary hypothetical brainstorming or dense technical discussions is limited.
NGS F now can i blame my personality type for not replying? lol . "I can't reply you because I'm INFP, SO SORRY" and yes , explains my love for writing letters too even tho im too lazy to start again now that I had stopped. I think I stopped birthday cards three years ago, oops.
INFP Managers
As managers, INFPs are among the least likely to seem like managers – their egalitarian attitudes lend respect to every subordinate, preferring communication as human beings than as a boss/employee opposition. People with the INFP personality type are flexible, open-minded and give their subordinates the tools they need, be they responsible delegation or an intuitive and receptive sounding board, to get the job done. Keeping their eyes on the horizon, INFPs set goals that achieve a desirable end, and help the people working under them to make that happen.
There is a downside to this style, as sometimes the boss just needs to be the boss. INFPs know how they feel about criticism, and are reluctant to subject others to that same experience, whether it's needed or even welcome. Further complicating this role, when INFPs are under stress, as when someone really does warrant criticism, they can become extremely emotional – they may not show it, but it can affect their judgment, or even cause them to withdraw inwards, in ways that can really hold back their team.
luckily im not ambitious then because this is so true, i was such a crap chairman because i didn't dare offend anyone and ended up doing everything by myself lmao. and don't earn respect basically
CONCLUSION finally
Few personality types are as poetic and kind-hearted as INFPs. Their altruism and vivid imagination allow INFPs to overcome many challenging obstacles, more often than not brightening the lives of those around them. INFPs' creativity is invaluable in many areas, including their own personal growth.
Yet INFPs can be easily tripped up in areas where idealism and altruism are more of a liability than an asset. Whether it is finding (or keeping) a partner, making friends, reaching dazzling heights on the career ladder or planning for the future, INFPs need to put in a conscious effort to develop their weaker traits and additional skills.
okay lame , the conclusion summed up everything, i could have just pasted this and be done. im so stupid and this proves how unorganized i am okay bye, 1,500 words assignment due tmr, i die